25 Oct A Well of Wisdom
By now we all know that ‘ it takes a village’ or the modern version ‘it takes a tribe’, but most of us are disconnected from the kind of supportive community that can really help us in the weeks and months after giving birth. It’s not that we’re loners and most of us have a few trusted friends made up of colleagues, our partner, a family member and a close friend by the time we give birth.
Whether your friendship circle was very deep and intimate or casual but large, it doesn’t necessarily translate into people who will advise you on changing your baby’s diaper or the best pads for blood flow after birth. They may not be people you can confide in about breastfeeding challenges or uncertainty about when your mother-in-law should visit. In short they may not know to ‘hold space’ for you. The question is, do your friends know how to create a safe and supportive space for you in the weeks and months after giving birth? The truth is most of us really don’t know how, not because we are selfish or unevolved but because we did not receive ourselves what can be defined as ‘ Women’s Wisdom ‘.
Women’s wisdom is made up of tips, practices, advice and beliefs that are passed down generationally. Historically women’s knowledge was shared from grandmothers to mothers to daughters, but a few movements happened that have stopped this flow of matrilineal generational wisdom.